Do you feel like you’ve drained yourself dry and have nothing left to give. If you feel empty inside, like I have many times, these tips are here to help you begin to fill yourself back up and be the best you possible!

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The feeling of emptiness is a hopeless feeling. I know because I’ve been there. But the good news is I’ve learned how to not stay there…and I want the same for you.

When you start to feel empty inside I want you to use these self-care tips to fill yourself back up. These simple tips have helped me through the years when I’ve felt empty inside, and I know they can help you too!

1. Find a spare room

There have been quite a few times when I’ve had to find a spare room for myself. I’ve called my mom who has a beautiful spare room and asked if hers was available for me to use.

That hopeless feeling of emptiness and being drained had come and I needed a little getaway from my husband and son – away from everything.

Those 24 hours spent in my mom’s spare room were magical for this introverted girl and the best thing I could have done for myself. I watched movies, slept in, and simply chilled on the couch. When I left her house the empty feeling was gone because I’d filled myself back up.


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Who has a spare room that you can use?

I want you to find a friend or family member who has a spare room that you can crash in. If that doesn’t work out find someone that has a cabin or even book a hotel room. Find something to get out of your normal!

Why someone else’s spare room?

When you’re at your own house you’ll constantly be thinking about all of the stuff that needs to be done. That, my friend, is not relaxing.

But when you’re away your brain doesn’t race as much thinking about this and that which will allow you to “just be” and relax.

I encourage you to get out your calendar and find a free time so that you can call a friend and schedule her spare room for 24-48 hours to begin filling yourself back up.


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3. Take a social media break

I used to scroll through Facebook a lot. But I noticed that there were people that I was following that I started comparing myself to. I would look at people and wish I had what they had or wonder why I couldn’t reach the business goals as quickly as she did. So I took a step back and a much needed break.

The truth is, nowadays I rarely scroll through Facebook. I’ve found myself so much healthier with this permanent break…and I honestly don’t even miss it!

Now, I’m not asking you to permanently get off of social media. Maybe I am asking you to take a half day, week or even a month long break. I dare you to try it and see how your life is changed!

Is it time to unfollow/unfriend?

Here are a few questions to ask yourself when trying to figure out if you need to unfollow/unfriend someone:

  • Who are the Debbie Downers (negative people) that don’t lift you up and give you joy? If their feed constantly annoys you it’s time to say goodbye.
  • What celebrities, fitness friends, entrepreneurs have you started constantly comparing yourself to?

Unfollowing or unfriending someone doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. It means you’re taking steps to become healthier.

Along with taking a break from social media, I want you to go through your feed and friends list and take a serious look at who you need to unfollow or unfriend. If they’re not lifting you up they’re dragging you down.


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2. Take a bubble bath

Yes, I know this one is super simple. But I don’t want you to take just any bubble bath…I want you to pull out all the stops.

Get out candles and your favorite music that will help you relax. Sit in silence and read a book while you’re soaking in the tub. Listen to an audiobook and sip on your favorite beverage. Or maybe laying in the ambience of the candles is more your style. There are so many ways to relax.

Maybe, just maybe, you need to make bubble baths a once-a-week thing!

(If bubble baths aren’t your thing then I want to encourage you to take a hot shower. There’s something very healing about standing under the hot water as it’s coming down on your body.)


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4. Be still

I cannot tell you how hard it is to just sit and be still. I tried to do this a few weeks ago and started thinking about all.the.things. I’d grab my phone only to remind myself I was supposed to be sitting still.

If you don’t believe me when I say it’s hard, set a timer for 5 minutes and try it for yourself.

We live in such a fast-paced society that we need to get back to the roots of being still where we don’t constantly have noise, music or something in front of our faces. (My hand is raised because I’m guilty of this myself.)

So I encourage you to be still and sit quietly. No music. No phone. No anything. And if at all possible, take this time away from your family and friends even if just for a few minutes.

It sounds so simple but I’m here to tell you that it’s life giving!

(Also, you might just be amazed how much easier it is to hear the Lord speaking to your heart when you’re quiet.)

How can you begin filling yourself back up?

Look back over the list and see which one speaks the most to your heart. It’s highly likely that you need to start there first.

You can do this friend. I’m cheering you on!


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