Hosting as an introvert doesn’t have to be stressful. When you follow these simple hospitality tips you’ll be able to sit back, relax and truly enjoy time with your houseguests. Plus, you’ll be able to prove to everyone that introverts can host a fabulous party or get-together!
Can an introvert be a good host?
For years I told myself that hosting as an introvert would always be stressful and that I’d never enjoy having people over to my house.
But as I put these tips into practice hosting became much easier and a lot less stressful. I no longer avoid hosting but look forward to time with friends and family.
For me the key was figuring out what caused the anxiety and stress of having houseguests.
The next time you find yourself asking if hosting is really possible as an introvert remind yourself that, yes, it is and ask yourself these three questions!
Ask These 3 Questions To Eliminate The Stress Of Hosting As An Introvert
Go from survival mode to thriving and learn how to be a fabulous host for your next party by starting here:
Why is entertaining houseguests so stressful for you?
When you know exactly what it is about having guests in your home that causes you stress, you’ll be able to put a plan in place and enable yourself to have a stress-free event.
7 Reasons why hosting can be challenging for introverts:
Small Talk: Hosting often involves engaging in small talk, which introverts may find superficial and exhausting.
Pressure to Entertain: Introverts may feel pressured to entertain guests, which can lead to anxiety about keeping everyone engaged and satisfied.
Perfectionism: Introverts may feel pressure to create the perfect atmosphere and experience for guests, leading to perfectionist tendencies and increased stress.
Large Gatherings: Large gatherings amplify social demands, making it overwhelming for introverts to manage multiple interactions at once.
Attention: Being the center of attention as a host can be uncomfortable for introverts who prefer to blend into the background.
Food: Knowing what food (or how much) to make for houseguests can overwhelm introverts.
Decision Making: Hosting involves making numerous decisions, from menu planning to seating arrangements, which can be mentally exhausting for introverts.
Take some time to really think about what it is that causes you anxiety and stress when hosting. Then keep reading so you can put a plan in place for your next event.
What plan can you put in place to be the best introvert hostess?
Now that you’ve identified what makes hosting stressful for you, it’s time to put a plan in place to eliminate the stress and have a great event.
7 Solutions to the challenges introverts face when hosting:
The best way for you as an introvert to make small talk less challenging is to ask your houseguests a lot of questions. Start with one question, then ask more questions related to the same topic.
Here’s an example:
Have you read any good books lately?
What did you like best about the book?
Does the author have any other books that you’ve enjoyed?
What other books are on your to-read list?
Pressure to Entertain
Instead of entertaining guests, introverts can host simple theme nights. This adds a touch of fun and cohesion to the event without overwhelming you as the hostess or your guests.
Here are a few ideas to get you started:
- Game Night: Pull out your favorite board games or card games. (Or have houseguests bring their favorite games.)
- Movie Night: Set up a cozy viewing area and watch a movie that everyone will enjoy.
- Crafting Party: Provide supplies for a simple craft project, such as painting, jewelry making, or DIY decorations.
- Book Club: Choose a book to read beforehand and discuss with your guests when you get together. (Check out these Christian fiction books for some fabulous reads.)
These themes offer a laid-back atmosphere and easy planning, perfect for small gatherings where the focus is on enjoying each other’s company.
Your houseguests are coming to visit you. They aren’t coming to inspect your house to make sure it’s spotless.
Think about what you look at when you’re visiting someone else’s house.
Are you really looking to see if they’ve dusted or if there are cobwebs in the corner of a room?
No! You’re there to visit with the hostess.
As long as you have a clean bathroom and the living room is decently picked up you’re on track for a fabulous event.
Take a deep breath, do your best to let go of the perfectionist tendencies and enjoy the night with your guests.
Instead of a large party, have a small party with 3-5 friends that you enjoy spending time with.
As an introvert, you can take the attention off of yourself by putting the attention onto something else. This diversion could be asking questions of your houseguests or hosting a theme night (as discussed above.)
The best way to eliminate the stress around food when hosting is to have a theme.
Here are a few ideas to get you started:
- DIY Pizza Party: Set up a pizza-making station with various toppings and let guests create their own pizzas before baking them.
- Potluck Dinner: Have each guest bring a dish to share, creating a diverse spread of everyone’s favorites.
- Outdoor BBQ: Fire up the grill for a casual barbecue with burgers, hot dogs, and grilled veggies, accompanied by refreshing drinks.
- S’mores Bonfire: Gather around for a cozy evening of roasting marshmallows and making s’mores. (Use an outdoor fire pit or an electric s’mores maker.)
If you decide to do all the cooking yourself, make a list of 3-5 easy recipes that you can use on a rotation. The first time you serve those dishes make a note of how much people ate so you can make more/less the next time.
Introverts can eliminate decision fatigue by asking friends for their ideas about their event. (I often find myself calling my sisters when I need help with something. They always seem to have the best ideas.)
What’s Your Hosting Style?
I used to think that hosting meant that everything needed to be fancy, but I’m learning that’s not the case at all.
My style is very simple – paper plates, plasticware and plastic cups. This eases my stress level and makes for easy clean-up afterwards.
When you figure out what your hosting style is you’ll be able to eliminate the stress of hosting.
If pulling out the fine china, cloth napkins and decorating a fancy table is your style I want you to go all out.
Whether you’re style is fancy, casual or somewhere in the middle, be confident with who you are.
Your houseguests love you, and I highly doubt they care what they’re eating off of.
Now that you’ve figured out your hosting style, what makes hosting stressful (and hopefully found some solutions to those challenges), it’s time to schedule some parties.
Happy hosting my fellow introverted friend!
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