Are you wondering what to do when you’re feeling worried or scared? I’ve been there with the all of the “what ifs” filling my mind. Thankfully I was able to work through my worry and fear and I want to show you how you can too!
I’d grabbed my to-do list for the day and was looking over the projects I needed to work on. I chose one and was super excited to start working on it. But as I started thinking about the end result I became scared and was stopped dead in my tracks.
What if the project doesn’t work out?
What if this happens?
What if that happens?
(And the biggest one.) What if I fail?
I began to worry and had to decide whether or not to continue with the project that I had been so excited to work on just a few minutes earlier.
As I stepped back and took a breather for a minute I realized that I needed to process through the thoughts swirling around in my brain so that I could let go of the fear and worry that were clouding my judgement.
Here’s what I did and you can too! (Whether it’s a project or life situation the same principles apply and have helped me through the years.)
What To Do When You’re Feeling Worried or Scared.
Get Your Feelings Out and Share Your Worries With Someone
I knew the first thing I needed to do was share how I was feeling with someone, and that’s exactly what I did. I texted my sister. She’s my voice of reason and I know that she’ll shoot me straight and be totally honest with me even when I don’t want to hear it.
I want you to do this too!
Whenever you’re worried or scared text, call, email, whatever you need to do and share your feelings with a trusted friend. Not just any friend but someone you know will shoot you straight.
Ask them if your worries are normal or if they’re unhealthy.
Why is this so important? Because Satan wants us to keep those feelings inside. He knows that when they’re shown to the light healing will begin, true freedom will come, and the situation becomes brighter. But when we keep them in the darkness of our hearts it’s unhealthy and they begin to fester and can even grow into anxiety.
So find a trusted friend to share with! Stop and call them right now if you need to. Go ahead…I’ll gladly wait.
Process Through The Situation You’re Worrying About To The End
A few months ago my pastor recommended that when we’re scared or worried about a situation that we need to process through the situation and see what it will look like if the worst case scenario happens.
If “this” happens what will the end result be?
I know, it sounds weird, but it really does work!
He reminded us that it’s highly likely that the situation won’t turn out as bad as we’re fearing or anticipating.
So I applied that principle to my project and processed through to the end. And, of course, I decided that it wouldn’t be as bad as I originally thought. Doing this helped me so much that I started working on my project a little while later.
I want you to do this too. Whatever you’re scared or worrying about process through to the end.
Processing through your worry might be super hard.
Now, I realize that when you’re feeling worried it might be super hard to process through your situation but take your time and start by working through it step by step.
What if this happens…then what will happen after that?
Will the end result really be as bad as you thought. If your situation was anything like mine the answer is no.
“Trust Me” through your worry.
As I was processing through that end case scenario of what would happen in my own situation the Holy Spirit nudged my heart and said, “Trust me.”
Those two little words were a beautiful reminder from the Lord that if I start doing the work on myself and my worries that He’s going to be faithful and show up too. (Deuteronomy 31:6)
It’s highly likely that as you start processing through your own worry that the Lord might ask you to trust Him too. You won’t know until you start the process.
Whether it takes weeks or minutes, days or months I’m confident that healing is on the other side of you processing through that fear or worry. Freedom will come and you’ll be able to back away from the fear or worry that have gripped your heart.
All it takes is starting!
That first step is the hardest but I’m cheering you on as you begin to work on yourself. Start by sharing with a trusted friend and then start processing.
Obviously there are a lot of different things you can do when you’re feeling worried, this is just a starting point and two things that help me. I’d love to know what has helped you work through your worries and fears. Please comment below and share with us!